Extend grace. Place trust in people. Be kind, not nice.

People are not out to get everything from you. People do want to help. People do want to be valuable. People do want to create.

Get them what they need in order to provide value, then get out of their way. You can apply deadlines, but don’t expect everything. Don’t push someone who is motivated to the point to where they are not. You will not get them back.